FAMILY

I'm back with another post.

I'm gonna talk about FAMILY for this post. Why? I find that the family relationship is important. It's okay if you grow up in a broken family. But that doesn't mean you can mistreat your family members. It's a blessing if you grow up with both your parents and maybe your siblings, well I don't know if you're the only child or if you have siblings but whatever it is, it's still a blessings as you have both parents.

For those who grew/grow up in a broken family, it's fine. Nobody knows unless you tell them or people asked you. But when they asked and you share, they'll be sorry for you. Don't let them be. You still grow up fine. Your father/mother still does his/her best to raise you, they worked hard to put food on the table for you, to shelter you, to provide a roof over your head. Rain or shine, either of them will be there for you when you needed them. Don't feel shitty about growing up in a broken family. I'm one of them who grew up in a broken family.

But growing up in a broken family does not mean that you can treat your other family members with disrespect, being rude to them. More so if you grow up in a perfect family. Don't cut ties with your family members when you become an adult. Don't just because you think that they are toxic so you should cut ties with them. What about yourself? Don't you find yourself toxic for them too? Don't you think that they wanna cut ties with you too? But did they do that?

I understand that they annoy to the max, they irritate you. You don't like them. It's normal. It's totally fine. But it's not fine when you decided to cut ties with them. They did nothing wrong for you to cut ties with them. They did their best to provide for you until you become an adult. When you're an adult, it's your turn to take care of them. Cutting ties with them is something very stupid and I really hate it when people does this unless they have got a valid reason but whatever it is, being a parent is never easy. Gotta try to understand them. Don't wait until you become a parent then you come and regret that you've cut ties with them. By then, it will be too late. I bet you will be shameful to go back to them and asked them for help but they will still open their arms and welcome you back like as if nothing happened. That is if they're still alive. What happens if they passed away? Are you gonna attend their wake after cutting ties with them? Do you have the face to see them? What if your relatives started talking behind your back when they know that you've cut ties with your family? Can you take what they say about you? If you have a sibling, do you think your sibling will welcome you back with an open arms just like your parents? You think your sibling will allow you to attend the wake?

Do you think that your sibling will help you when you needed help? You can hate your family for all you want but seriously DO NOT CUT TIES WITH THEM. Especially when you're left with your only sibling(s). If you can help them with something, then offer the help. It's okay if they didn't turn to you for help. It's fine to offer help to them. Though they can be rude to you at times, annoy you to the max. But at the end of the day, they're still your family. Your direct kin. Maybe your only direct kin.

You don't have to talk to them daily. You don't have to be nice to them everyday. You probably won't see them everyday though you are living in the same house as them. Cutting ties with your family just because you hate them, is stupid. Think of the future. Think of the times where you could use their help. Stop being selfish. Stop thinking about yourself. Maybe for some, it's obvious that your sibling won't help you or you don't trust your sibling enough to help you, it's fine. Still, DO NOT CUT TIES.

If you have already cut ties with your family then it's okay but DO NOT make your other half do the same thing like you. It's as if you're breaking the family up which is something nobody wanna see it happening. You are just gonna make your other half suffer, his/her family suffer too. Respect your other half, respect your other half family members. Respect their wishes. All they probably want is to live in peace & harmony. Their request is not that difficult.

That's all.